Falling In Love, Being In Love And Expressing Love
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As a Psychologist and Marriage Counselor I have repeatedly seen the difference between falling in love and being in love. It is almost as if fallnig in love happens to us. In fact, physiological studies have shown that many neurochemicals and hormones are released during the falling in love phase. This physiological process actually narrows an individual's awareness. Whlie over stated, the old saying "love is blind" is not so far from the truth.
Especially if you are referring to falling in love.Being in love is a bit different. It follows the seemingly nonstop intense fireworks of falling in love.
The blinders come off. This is when love can be looked at more as a choice.
Something that requires more purposeful intention.A numebr of years ago I came across the work of Dr. Gary Chapman. He speaks of love languages. In fact, he identifies five:1) words of affirmation,
2) acts of service,
3) qaulity time,
4) physical touch, and
5) receiving gifts.
I would contend that all of these exrpessions of love are important in a relationship.
However, tpyically one can be the "golden key" that unlocks feelings of love in your partner.Early in a relationship we likely don't figure out what are partner's primary love language is. This is because in the falling in love phase we likley do them all. As a relationship moves into the being in love phase we likely fall into our own language. If I am a word guy, I may say "I love you", "I love you", "I love you". It won't unlock the deepest experience of being loved if it does not match my partner's primary love language.The ChallengeI challenge you to make your relatoinship a priority.
If you are haivng challenges in your relationship, it may be due in part to speaking the wrong language.You may be asking yourself, "How can I figure out my partner's love language?".
Great question! I am glad you asked. I'll identify two ways. The first is to lsiten to the criticism given to you by your partner. If you hear "You are never home" -- you got it -- Time is it.
You can also conduct experiments. Do all of them over a period of time and pay attention to the results.Remember, the hottest way to get love is to give love.
However, make sure you're spaeking the right language.Dr. Mike Davison
http://www.PartnersInPurpose.Com
http://www.PartnersInPurpose.Blogspot.ComIf you have any questions about individualized consultation or
cocahing to help you live your huge dream, please do not hesitate
to contact me at mike@PartnersInPurpose.Com .Copyright, 2006. PartnersInPurpose.ComAll rights reserved.
For more information, contact:Dr. Mike Davison3295 N. Arlington Heights Rd.
Suite 103Arlington Heights, IL 60004Telephone: (800) 470-3257
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